Tuesday, December 29, 2015
Life: Comfort Zone...
Life: Comfort Zone...: "Life begins at the end of your comfort zone" I guess I had not really thought about this quote. Does life really begin when we...
Comfort Zone...
"Life begins at the end of your comfort zone"
I guess I had not really thought about this quote. Does life really begin when we step out of our comfort zone? I know when I was a youth leader in a church group back when my kids were teenagers we always taught them to "Think out of the box". So I guess this quote kind of states that, we all need to begin living our life now and not when we step out of our comfort zone.
How many of you have actually stopped (I mean really stopped), took a step back and looked at your life (really looked) and thought "WOW" is this the person that I really am? And maybe you like the person you are, and that is wonderful (don't stop), but I know I am one who has stopped and looked at my life (recently) and have came to the realization that my life has been wonderful, I have so many wonderful memories, I have 3 great kids and a amazing husband. But I just didn't feel complete. I hadn't stepped out of my comfort zone yet, I liked living daily knowing what or how I was going to do things because I have always been a neat freak and somewhat OCD. Always had to be with 3 tiny babies a full time job and bread winner and a husband who owned his own job. So lets just say life was chaotic, busy, I was the Mom who did everything, the basketball Mom, the softball Mom, the tooth fairy, the Santa clause, the tucked into bed every night, the Mom whom allowed every wayward kid into my home because I knew where my kids were then. We lived out in the country and so we chased fireflies, we trampled thru the garden, I even bottled up food out of the garden. Yep we lived in this century. But I wanted our kids to experience the life I did growing up, but with a little more pizazz. And that they did. I have so very many fond memories.
As I recently received grim news from a GI specialist (one of many) that stated I have a chronic terminal illness, this makes you stop dead in your tracks. I have been going thru the numb phase (how could this be happening to me, what did I ever do to deserve this? How could God put me thru this?)
Now I am going thru the sad phase. I just cry at every little thing that triggers these thoughts racing thru my mind. I have found myself being extremely quiet and I just think about all of my numerous memories of my life from the beginning to what my end will be like. I really want to leave a legacy for my kids, but "how?" I have started writing letters to my husband (to open once I pass), I am writing letters to each one of my kids (to open once I pass) and I have been going thru my very personal items and marking them as to which kid gets which item. Trust me this is so extremely hard, but I know I have to do it. I have even re-written my "living will" and "power of attorney".
So why is it that no one ever learns to live out of their comfort zone? Good question? But I don't think they realize that someday they will not get out of this world alive. They think they are indestructible. That nothing will ever happen to them. But we all need to stop and learn to think out of the box.
When I divorced I started a "bucket list" and some of the items on my list where easy and I accomplished several of them, but of course I had some grandiose ideas that really were never going to be attainable. So now that I know I have a terminal illness I have sat back down and I have been re-writing my new bucket list. Trust me these items are much easier to obtain and I pray to God that I can at least do some of these things on my list. I have started by watching the sunsets with coffee and watching the butterflies, birds, squirrels, my cat and my beloved dog, Maggie. And each time I think of Maggie, my kids and my husband it makes me cry to think I am not always going to be there. But I must be strong. Strong for them, strong for me and strong because God is holding me together and therefore I have been positive in helping others deal with their issues of their own. Because maybe just maybe they will be able to live out of their comfort zone and live for a long time.
So I am always telling my kids to look "outside of the box" and take chances. Because we all need to stop living in out comfort zone and look at life differently. I hope I can instill this in my kids and my husband because that is a legacy I want each one of them to remember me by. "Is that Mom or wife took chances, looked at life differently, loved so many different things and was always a blessing to others".
So stop take a look at your own life, and stop to think what if I was told I was going to die sooner than later. Would you step out of your comfort zone? Would you start to live a life you want? Write a "bucket list"? Just simply learn to love the small things in life.
I know I will because once I am gone I have asked God to allow me to fly like a bird, to simply soar over the earth and bask in the view of what God created. Because that is stepping out of my comfort zone.
Keep Smiling
Carla
I guess I had not really thought about this quote. Does life really begin when we step out of our comfort zone? I know when I was a youth leader in a church group back when my kids were teenagers we always taught them to "Think out of the box". So I guess this quote kind of states that, we all need to begin living our life now and not when we step out of our comfort zone.
How many of you have actually stopped (I mean really stopped), took a step back and looked at your life (really looked) and thought "WOW" is this the person that I really am? And maybe you like the person you are, and that is wonderful (don't stop), but I know I am one who has stopped and looked at my life (recently) and have came to the realization that my life has been wonderful, I have so many wonderful memories, I have 3 great kids and a amazing husband. But I just didn't feel complete. I hadn't stepped out of my comfort zone yet, I liked living daily knowing what or how I was going to do things because I have always been a neat freak and somewhat OCD. Always had to be with 3 tiny babies a full time job and bread winner and a husband who owned his own job. So lets just say life was chaotic, busy, I was the Mom who did everything, the basketball Mom, the softball Mom, the tooth fairy, the Santa clause, the tucked into bed every night, the Mom whom allowed every wayward kid into my home because I knew where my kids were then. We lived out in the country and so we chased fireflies, we trampled thru the garden, I even bottled up food out of the garden. Yep we lived in this century. But I wanted our kids to experience the life I did growing up, but with a little more pizazz. And that they did. I have so very many fond memories.
As I recently received grim news from a GI specialist (one of many) that stated I have a chronic terminal illness, this makes you stop dead in your tracks. I have been going thru the numb phase (how could this be happening to me, what did I ever do to deserve this? How could God put me thru this?)
Now I am going thru the sad phase. I just cry at every little thing that triggers these thoughts racing thru my mind. I have found myself being extremely quiet and I just think about all of my numerous memories of my life from the beginning to what my end will be like. I really want to leave a legacy for my kids, but "how?" I have started writing letters to my husband (to open once I pass), I am writing letters to each one of my kids (to open once I pass) and I have been going thru my very personal items and marking them as to which kid gets which item. Trust me this is so extremely hard, but I know I have to do it. I have even re-written my "living will" and "power of attorney".
So why is it that no one ever learns to live out of their comfort zone? Good question? But I don't think they realize that someday they will not get out of this world alive. They think they are indestructible. That nothing will ever happen to them. But we all need to stop and learn to think out of the box.
When I divorced I started a "bucket list" and some of the items on my list where easy and I accomplished several of them, but of course I had some grandiose ideas that really were never going to be attainable. So now that I know I have a terminal illness I have sat back down and I have been re-writing my new bucket list. Trust me these items are much easier to obtain and I pray to God that I can at least do some of these things on my list. I have started by watching the sunsets with coffee and watching the butterflies, birds, squirrels, my cat and my beloved dog, Maggie. And each time I think of Maggie, my kids and my husband it makes me cry to think I am not always going to be there. But I must be strong. Strong for them, strong for me and strong because God is holding me together and therefore I have been positive in helping others deal with their issues of their own. Because maybe just maybe they will be able to live out of their comfort zone and live for a long time.
So I am always telling my kids to look "outside of the box" and take chances. Because we all need to stop living in out comfort zone and look at life differently. I hope I can instill this in my kids and my husband because that is a legacy I want each one of them to remember me by. "Is that Mom or wife took chances, looked at life differently, loved so many different things and was always a blessing to others".
So stop take a look at your own life, and stop to think what if I was told I was going to die sooner than later. Would you step out of your comfort zone? Would you start to live a life you want? Write a "bucket list"? Just simply learn to love the small things in life.
I know I will because once I am gone I have asked God to allow me to fly like a bird, to simply soar over the earth and bask in the view of what God created. Because that is stepping out of my comfort zone.
Keep Smiling
Carla
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